Death, Love and … See you Soon!
By José Valencia
On November 8, 2015, I was privileged to attend the memorial service for Deborah Whitehouse, who was my patient until her final moment. A thousand feelings came to my mind while contemplating the attitude of everyone present, especially her husband, Jacky, who felt the tears choking him, yet graciously danced to conceal the pain. Tears came to his eyes at that moment, stopping his words for a few seconds.
I want to share with all of you readers that I truly felt touched by the expressions of love by all those who spoke, especially Jacky, who made it very clear that there are no coincidences, and love unites the lovers beyond death. He also mentioned that at some point in their lives as a couple, they met somebody who told them that in previous lives they had a “coincidence,” so that’s why their relationship was so beautiful and so intense. He concluded by saying he hoped that in a next life they return to “coincide” again … tears of emotion.
In my way of seeing things, of course I believe in reincarnation! And I do not believe in “coincidences” because all the people we know, all the circumstances we live, have a reason beyond the common and known. So, yes, I say with real conviction that they will be together again in a moment not measured by “earth time” and will follow up on their love.
I want to share with you my beliefs or convictions in this field as part of what we will offer in the near future to the residents of our Casa Cieneguita Adult Care Living Facility, conceived as part of a unique philosophy of service based on love, compassion, humanism, presence and, of course, experience. Thus, we apply not only scientific knowledge, but also the contents of the best religion ever: love.
I know that all our residents will die within an uncertain future, but what is true for me is that what we will provide them is quality and dignity of life until their last moments with the absolute conviction that our residents were moved there through an act of love, since it is not possible to provide all the care they require in the family home.
As was the case with Deborah and Jacky, it will happen to many people or couples, parents or grandparents who, through a wise decision by their families, will be moved to an institution where they will receive what they deserve until the final moments of their existence.
This and much, much more will be offered in this new residence for dependent elderly people, especially those who suffer from Alzheimer’s, dementia, and even terminal illnesses. Thanks, Deborah! Thanks, Jacky, for what you both taught me!