How Am I Spending My Dash? Born 1949?
Live Like You Can
By Janis McDonald
Last week I had an amazing conversation about The Dash and how it represents my total time spent on this earth. While I don’t know exactly what the last number will be, I have always felt I will live to be l00 years old. Whether I am right or wrong, I decided to use this number to calculate how many days I would be given to spend during my lifetime.
While it seemed like a no-brainer to figure this out, I was stunned when I realized my l00- year-old life would contain only 36,500 days (plus some extra for leap years). My next calculation brought the news of just how many projected days I had left. What a shock!
Those who know me and my longtime desire to remember clearly that life is terminal advise me to avoid the subject of the final act that will eventually place a number at the end of my dash. They tell me it is just too depressing and energy-draining to think about.
Even though I find it strange to think of no longer existing, I also find myself invigorated, focused, and more alive when I remember my life will end. At the end of each day I will subtract another number from my projected total days, then before closing my eyes, I try to remember to ask myself these questions: Did I do my best today? Will this problem be important in the grand scheme of things? Did I follow my anger or negative thoughts down the “rat hole “of obsession and control, or did I catch myself and turn it around? Would I make the same choice again? Most of all, am I satisfied with how I spent my dash today?
Sarah Ban Breathnach, author of Simple Abundance, resets her worry default thinking by simply yelling “dive, dive, dive” when her mind wants to take over and ruin her life. The idea of yelling at myself to shake me off the disaster track gave birth to my own personal way of self-correcting my day. The words that speak more directly to my heart are “fly, fly, fly” and soar above the negative, sometimes seemingly never-ending stream of one thought leading to the next thought, taking me down into the worst case scenario of the upcoming certain catastrophe.
When I firmly keep in mind to live like every day is my last day, I can stay more acutely aware of the bullets of fear and worry that might come my way. Early detection gives me the freedom to choose again and decide how I want to spend this day. Until I know the number at the end of my dash, I keep practicing at flying above bullets of negativity that threaten to take me down and work on increasing my ability to notice them sooner in order to fly out of the way and choose a path of acceptance and serenity.
Janis McDonald, Professional Health Coach, Functional Aging Trainer, Private Gym 152 0457. Follow the Live Like You Can Blog! Go to: www.livelikeyoucan.com