Smile, You are in San Miguel
Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire
I looked for love and it was nowhere.
I loved and it was everywhere.
— Anthony Silard
When we look for love, we seek it in exactly the form we desire it in, and ignore it in the various forms in which it already appears in our lives. We ignore the love that is given to us from ourselves, our families, our friends, and become fixated on the one specific form we crave, e.g. “My father’s saying something supportive about my new career choice” or “My partner writing me a card, or bringing me flowers, or saying ‘I love you’ more often” or “Someone thinking I’m attractive and asking me out.” While we have absolutely no power over when and how and how much love is given to us, we have 100 percent power over how we give it to others. If you have a partner, Valentine’s Day is a reminder to give to them in a way that celebrates their uniqueness. If she or he loves opera, surprise her or him with two opera tickets, or an opera CD. Even better, take a piece of colored paper and some colored markers, draw a big red heart in the middle and fill it with what you love about them. There’s no material substitute for writing from the heart. If you have not yet met the right person, Valentine’s Day can feel like Celebrate Your Job Day for the unemployed. We can all get down on ourselves when we find ourselves single on Valentine’s Day; we just want to crawl into a hole and let this day hurry up and be over. Yet we have to remember: Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love. The more you recognize the love that already exists within and around you, the more you will attract it in the new form you desire it in.
Author’s Note: About a year ago, I walked to the top of Sagaing Hill, a very spiritual Buddhist temple just a short trishaw ride away from Mandalay in Burma. I meditated for an hour and came up with this Valentine’s Day quote for Smile, You are in San Miguel. This quote has many layers of meaning. I hope you will discover its right meaning for you based on where you are in your life right now.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute (www.leadglobal.org) and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, You Are in San Miguel each week in your email inbox, register for free at www.smileitsmonday.com .